Gender Differences in Extramarital Behaviors Among Couples in Long-Distance Marriages in the Digital Age: A Study in Kigali, Rwanda

Authors

  • Alphonse Nkurunziza Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, University of Rwanda, Kigali, Rwanda
  • Claudine Munganyinka Department of Wellness, Wellness & Family, University of Rwanda, Kigali, Rwanda

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.15575/psy.v11i2.38942

Keywords:

Gender differences, digital communication, extramarital behaviors, long-distance marriages

Abstract

This study investigated gender differences in extramarital behaviors in long-distance marriages, with a focus on the role of digital platforms in facilitating infidelity and the impact on marital commitment and satisfaction. The rationale for the study stems from the increasing prevalence of long-distance marriages in the digital age, where technology serves as both a means of maintaining connection and a potential risk factor for infidelity. A sample of 300 participants (150 men, 150 women) in long-distance marriages was recruited. Participants completed the Extramarital Behavior Scale (EBS), the Digital Communication and Infidelity Scale (DCIS), and the Marital Commitment and Satisfaction Scale (MCSS). Results showed that men reported higher levels of physical extramarital behaviors (mean = 3.2), while women exhibited more emotional extramarital behaviors (mean = 3.8). The use of digital platforms was strongly correlated with both physical (r = .55, p < .01) and emotional extramarital behaviors (r = .50, p < .01). Lower marital commitment (B = -.30, p = .002) and satisfaction (B = -.25, p = .038) were significant predictors of increased extramarital behaviors. In conclusion, digital platforms play a critical role in infidelity among long-distance couples, with notable gender differences in behavior patterns.

Author Biography

Alphonse Nkurunziza, Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, University of Rwanda, Kigali

Alphonse Nkurunziza is a seasoned marriage and family therapist with over 15 years of experience, specializing in relationship dynamics and marital counseling. He holds a PhD in Psychology with a focus on Family Psychology and is a lecturer in psychology at the Institut Catholique de Kabgayi (ICK). Alphonse is also the founder of Wellness & Family Ltd, a Rwandan-based consultancy that provides psychological support and wellness programs to national and international organizations. His research interests include the influence of digital communication on marital commitment, gender differences in extramarital behaviors, and the impact of parenting styles on cognitive development. An avid academic, he aims to publish extensively on marital dynamics and couples therapy. Alphonse is also the author of several books, including "Ritual in Couples: 40 Days Practices to Enhance Relationships." He is committed to helping couples strengthen their relationships and achieve personal growth through practical and evidence-based therapeutic approaches.

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2024-12-31

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